3 Tips to get over Your Breakup

Break ups are hard.

It's one of the most painful experiences we go through in our lives... that we aren't taught about how to deal with growing up.

Imagine: if we learned emotional growth instead of parallelograms?

But I digress.

Today, let's talk a little about how to recover from your breakup.

If you are reading this and you are going through a breakup right now, I'm really sorry.

This has got to be a very difficult time for you.

Here's 3 tips to help you get over your break up:

1. Lean on your Loved Ones

Your family. Your friends. People who love you.

Chances are, you may have distanced yourself from your circle during the relationship. If that is the case, this is the opportunity for you to re-engage with your loved ones.

They love you and they are happy to be your source of support and strength during this trying time.

(Of course, they may be saying terrible things about your ex to help you feel better... and that may not be what you really want, especially if you are hoping to re-connect with your ex...

But that is for another topic. We'll come back to this.).

2. Make New Friends

Create a new circle of friends if you need to. Meet new people with shared interests, go to your local community groups and pick up a new hobby.

Some times it might be too hard to interact with your current circle of friends with whom shared a big part of your past relationship with.

I get it.

I would, however, strongly caution against dating immediately after a breakup. This may be an unpopular opinion. There are many advise online that recommends dating immediately to override the relationship that ended or to override your ex. It may help you distract from the pain but it would only create a hole inside you that will come back and bite you later...

(Alas, this is another entire topic in of itself. We'll circle back to this next week...)

3. Treat Yourself

I don't really mean an expensive meal or a spa day.

Though, absolutely go for that too. Change your hair, start working out, go for a holiday...

What I mean by treating yourself is being kind to yourself like you would your best friend. Talking to yourself with kindness. Supporting your recovery journey as you would support your best friend. Thinking kind thoughts. Saying kind words.

Holding yourself accountable. Earning back your sense of self-respect by living with integrity.

Doing what you say you will. Even if you are your own audience. Especially if you are your own audience. Learning to love yourself again. Just because a relationship didn't work out does not mean you do not deserve love. You are your own love first and foremost.

These are 3 tips to help you get over your breakup.

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More about breakups next week... With Love and Heart,

Fiona